Turning Mistakes Into Profits (And Avoiding Making Them)

Every person, including believers, will make mistakes at times. The test of your character is not whether or not you do something wrong but what you do after your blunder. Your action or inaction reveals your character and determines whether or not God will redeem what Satan meant for evil.

“ But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil ” Hebrews 5:14

“ The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness. ” Proverbs 15:2

“ If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. ” 1 John 1:9

“ A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels: ” Proverbs 1:5

Many times after making a mistake, it’s easy to become disheartened and say, “I’m just a failure. I can’t do anything right.” Satan likes to whisper these words to you so that depression and passivity ensure, opening the door even more widely to additional problems. If you respond to mistakes God’s way, however, you can experience victory and growth. Listening to wise advice will enable you to avoid making a lot of mistakes, too.

  1. Learn to face up to your mistakes. Be honest, admit you’re wrong, repent, and then go forward. Don’t sulk, and don’t have a pity party. Try again and praise God that you learned a lesson from this particular situation.
  2. Learn to listen to your critics and profit from their remarks. If their evaluation of you or your character is correct, then make changes and improve. If their criticism is without merit, dismiss the accusation and practice loving those who are criticizing you, just as Jesus did.
  3. Learn something positive from your mistake. Ask yourself why you failed. Examine your own motives, your relationships, and your actions. Allow mistakes to drive you to the Lord and to the Word instead of away from it. Are you spending time with God in prayer? Ask the Holy Spirit to show you the truth. Your attitude will determine what effect a mistake has on you.
  4. Identify the following potential problem areas within your family and avoid issues.
    Conflict of values: Parents generally expect their children to raise their children the same way they were raised and with the same values. But when a couple marries, their values merge and sometimes change, and some parents don’t like that. Another potential conflict is the number and spacing of children. Your position according on these areas should be according to the Word and not according to your desires or those of your family.

Time, money, and politics: You need to discuss and resolve the question of how much time each spouse spends with his or her family of origin and communicate that to the family. Additionally, you and your spouse need to agree where you’re spending holidays and make that a matter of budget if travel is required. Accepting money from family is not a good idea unless God chooses to use family to bless you, because money always has a cost. Never let your parents become your source, because God’s supposed to be your supply. Don’t allow politics to be a source of tension. I don’t know what political party my father-in-law affiliates with; I have never asked, and I don’t care to know. I want to stay in love with him, and I want him to stay in love with me.

Leadership: Make a commitment as an individual and a couple to follow your Lord, not the advice of your family. Remember that it’s your household. You draw the line, and your family will come to respect that line. Learn to control your mouth--when to speak and when to keep silent. Don’t criticize your partner’s family. Decide to walk in love with your in-laws. Find ways to please them. Remember that you reap what you sow (Galatians 6: 7-9), and one day you will be an in-law to your children’s spouses.

Guidelines for parents and in-laws

  • Allow your children and their spouses to make their own decisions, even if it’s the wrong one or one with which you don’t agree. Let them grow and develop.
  • Treat them with love and respect.
  • Praise them when they do well.
  • Give advice only when asked. If they don’t ask your advice, don’t offer it. Avoid criticizing them. Respect their privacy.
  • Let your gifts be without obligation.
  • Finally, intercede in prayer for them. The Spirit of God will show you when something’s going down, how to pray, and how to bind the devil. If He needs to, He’ll wake you up in the middle of the night in order to save their lives.

This article is written by Bishop Keith A. Butler

In his signature line-by-line style, Bishop Keith A. Butler travels the world teaching the Word of God without compromise. Bishop Butler is dedicated to teaching believers how to live their faith. He is the founder of Word of Faith International Christian Center and the Senior Pastor of faith4life churches in Round Rock and Dallas, Texas.

As Bishop, he oversees 14 ministry operations in the United States. Bishop Butler has also established several international ministry works. The Word of Faith Ministerial Alliance is a fellowship of ministers and Christian leaders who have received Bishop Butler as their spiritual father and/or mentor. Through its companion website, faithleaders.com, ministers and Christian leaders can find valuable resources to aid them in their ministry callings.

Bishop Butler has a nationally televised program on the Golden Eagle Broadcasting Network called “Live your Faith”.He is the author of over 24 books with such titles as Living Life on Top, The Art of Prayer, God’s Not Mad at You and God’s Plan for Man. With the support of his lovely wife, Pastor Deborah L. Butler, and their children: Pastor Andre Butler and wife Tiffany Butler (granddaughters Alexis, Angela, & April), Pastor MiChelle, and Minister Kristina Butler Bishop Butler continues to plant churches worldwide.